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Imam Abdur-Rahman As Sa’di attends the tea party Narrated by Shaykh Abdur Razzaq Al Badr

The following is a summary translation

Shaykh Abdur Razzaq Al Badr:

If the person sees his daughters or his little ones playing with toys, he should sit with them sometimes.


Shaykh Abdur Rahman As Sa’di—may Allah have mercy upon him; once his young daughter—young at that time—and her friend who was her age, were in the courtyard of the home. And he was a major scholar, and judge, and Imam and lecturer. He was going to leave from the home and there was his daughter and a young girl her age playing with these toys. And they had made up a skit as though they were in a room, pretending that some things were tea and coffee and they sat playing as girls play. When he wanted to leave the other young girl—not the daughter of the Shaykh—said to him: ‘Why don’t you visit us?’ He replied: ‘Tomorrow inshaAllah I will visit you.’

So when he wanted to exit he came to the house and stood at the door and knocked on the door and he called his daughter’s friend by her name. She opened the door and said: ‘Please enter.’ So he came and sat with them in their spot. They sat and pretended to give him coffee and they spoke with him and told him about their toys, and then he stood.

When he wanted to stand his daughter said to him: ‘You have not been my guest.’ He replied: ‘Tomorrow I will be your guest.’ The next day he came and knocked on the door and he called his daughter by her name and she opened the door and said: ‘Please enter.’ He entered this room and sat with them and he humored them and he conversed with them.

This doesn’t take more than three or four minutes from a person. And his daughter cheerfully narrates this now in one of the books, and she is an adult now. This occurred once in her youth but it brought about tremendous happiness for her.


Thus a person should not be neglectful of these affairs. When he sees his daughters he gives them some of his time; four minutes, five minutes, at most ten minutes; but it will do a lot in the heart of the young one.


Translated by Rasheed ibn Estes Barbee



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Breaking the Fast

Salman bin `Amir [radhiAllahu ‘anhu : May Allah be pleased with him] reported: I heard the Prophet [sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam] saying,

“When one of you breaks his Saum (fasting), let him break it on dates; if he does not have any, break his fast with water for it is pure.”[Abu Dawood].

Anas [radhiAllahu ‘anhu : May Allah be pleased with him] reported:

The Messenger of Allah [sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam] used to break his Saum (fast) before offering Maghrib (sunset) prayer with three fresh dates; if there were no fresh dates, he will eat three dry dates; and if there were no dry dates; he would take three draughts of water. [Abu Dawood and others, graded authentic by Shaykh Al-Albaani in Saheeh Al-Jami’ AS-Sagheer, No.4995].

“But those who disbelieve, they enjoy themselves and eat as the cattle eat. And the Hellfire will be their abode.” 
[Quraan, Surah Muhammad: 12]

To the above verse the reference to the following hadeeth is given in Tafsir Ibn Katheer:

Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said,

“The believer eats in one stomach whilst the disbeliever eats in seven.” [1]

Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said,

“The son of Aadam does not fill any vessel worse than his stomach. It is sufficient for the son of Aadam to eat a few mouthfuls, to keep him going. If he must do that (fill his stomach), then let him fill one third with food, one third with drink and one third with air.”[2]

Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said,

“The more people eat their fill in this world, the hungrier they will be on the Day of Resurrection.” [3]

Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said,

“The best among you are those whose coexist with me, then those who follow them immediately, then (the third generation) which comes immediately after them (he said this sentence twice to thrice), then these persons will be followed by those who will testify but they will not be asked to testify (that is their testimony will not be accepted) they will misappropriate and will not be trustworthy; will take vows, but will not fulfill them, will suffer from fatness.” [4]

Narrated Nafi’:

Ibn ‘Umar (radhiAllahu ‘anhu) never used to take his meal unless a poor man was called to eat with him. One day I brought a poor man to eat with him, the man ate too much, whereupon Ibn ‘Umar (radhiAllahu ‘anhu) said,

“O Nafi’! Don’t let this man enter my house, for I heard the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) saying, “A believer eats in one intestine (is satisfied with a little food), and a Kaafir (unbeliever) eats in seven intestines (eats much food).” [5]


[1] Related by al-Bukhaaree (no. 5081) and Muslim (no. 2060).
[2] Saheeh: Related by at- Tirmidhee (no. 1381) and Ibn Maajah (no. 3349). It was authenticated by Shaykh Muhammad Naasirud -Deen al-Albaanee in Silsilatul-Ahaadeethus-Saheehah (No. 2265)
[3] Silsilah al-Saheehah 342
[4] Riyadh-us-Saliheen Hadith No. 509. Imran Bin Husain relates (al-Bukhaaree and Muslim)
[5] Saheeh al-Bukhaaree – Volume 7, Book 65, Number 305: Ref: Riyadh-us-Saliheen Chapter 56 “The Excellence of Hunger and Leading a Life of Abstinence” [Darus Salaam Translation]

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Abud-Darda (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:

The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, “He who follows a path in quest of knowledge, Allah will make the path of Jannah easy to him. The angels lower their wings over the seeker of knowledge, being pleased with what he does. The inhabitants of the heavens and the earth and even the fish in the depth of the oceans seek forgiveness for him. The superiority of the learned man over the devout worshipper is like that of the full moon to the rest of the stars (i.e., in brightness). The learned are the heirs of the Prophets who bequeath neither dinar nor dirham but only that of knowledge; and he who acquires it, has in fact acquired an abundant portion.”

[Abu Dawud and At- Tirmidhi].



* Original Picture taken from online here and edited by me

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”…This time is the time of gentleness [rifq] and patience and wisdom, and it is not the time/era of harshness. Most of the people are in ignorance, in the heedlessness of giving preference to the worldly life, so patience is imperative, and gentleness [rifq] is imperative so that the da’wah reaches [the people] and so that it is conveyed to the people and so that they know.

We ask Allaah for guidance for everyone.”

Majmoo’ Fataawaa Ibn Baaz, vol. 8, p. 376.

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The Prophet’s (sallallahu alayhi wa salam) Noble Manners

Ibnul Qayyim summarized the extent of the Prophet’s noble manners by saying:

“The Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa salam) used to greet the children when he passed by them. Sometimes, a little girl would take him by the hand and he would allow her to lead him wherever she wanted. He (Salla Allaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) used to lick his fingers after eating. He (Salla Allaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) would be in the service of his family when at home.

Never would he become angry because of something personal. He (Salla Allaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) used to repair his own sandals and mend his own torn clothes. He would milk his goat himself for his own family. He would feed his own camel. He used to eat with his servants, sit in the company of the poor people, and personally take care of the needs of widows and orphans.

He would be the one to initiate the greeting when meeting people. He would respond to the humblest of invitations.

He (Salla Allaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) lived a very modest lifestyle, a man of soft manners, naturally kind, easy to get along with, having a pleasant smile on his face, gracefully humble, extremely generous but not wasteful. Soft-hearted and gentle in his dealings with each and every Muslim, lowering the wings of humility to the believers, bearing their companionship in such a gentle way.”

[Madaarij As-Saalikeen, 3/111-112]

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